There is nothing wrong with feeling good. In fact, feeling good is one of the gifts we have as humans. It’s often the paths we take to feeling good that can lead us astray. We will never truly feel good if we try to achieve it at someone else’s expense. It’s a sign that we don’t like ourselves much if we try to look good by making someone else look bad. We might try and deny what we are doing but deep down there is an acute awareness that what we are doing is wrong. We know that we don’t really feel that good about ourselves or what we have done.
It’s perfectly fine to be honest about the things we are good at, those things in which we excel. But when that slips into bragging and boasting we need to listen to that subtle little alarm clock that sounds inside.
It’s funny how we humans are constructed. We almost always feel best about ourselves when we are doing something for someone else, contributing to the greater good, or just being understanding. Yet, if we do something to make us feel good about ourselves, it rarely works. It’s something we need to practice. We need to learn to love ourselves. You do not have to be who you are today, and your life is not scripted. Changing how you feel about yourself means creating a strategy, gathering some new tools, and making yourself into the person you want to be. A good way to start is to stop pretending to be something you’re not and to make time to do things you love. Sartre believed that in the nature of being a human being one is called on to act, and one frequently has an acute awareness that one is acting. It frequently results in a sense of being less than authentic or maybe being a fraud in some sense.
Our world is changing and people have got to change. A new breed of human is emerging. How do you become that person? Self-care, self-love, do what makes you feel good. Just make sure you’re not making anyone else feel bad while you’re doing it.